Embracing Gratitude in Challenging Times
When I think about the last six to twelve months, it is not difficult to get bogged down by the events that have unfolded. The grief of losing the strongest woman in my life. The negativity and divisiveness in our political spaces. The avoidable suffering of so many innocent people around the world.
The biggest frustration is the feeling of helplessness about it all.
These emotions can bring about sadness, anger, bitterness, and even hopelessness.
But, what benefit do they bring, and at what cost?
A Nigerian proverb says “Ẹní bá mọ inú rò, á mọ ọpẹ́ dá.” When we reflect deeply enough, we will always find a reason to be grateful.
Gratitude is a powerful antidote for negativity and sadness.
Gratitude keeps us humble.
Gratitude helps us remember how fortunate we are.
Gratitude strengthens our relationships.
Gratitude fosters compassion–towards ourselves and others.
Gratitude promotes resilience.
In times of darkness, it’s easy to question, “What is there to be thankful for?”
I encourage you to dig deeper and reflect thoughtfully.
For me, life felt empty without my parents.
But were they supposed to live forever?
A child is supposed to bury their parents, and I did.
For others, the reverse is true.
Across the world, loss is a daily occurrence.
You did not care for what you had for breakfast this morning. Meanwhile, others have lived in famine for decades.
You were frustrated with your schedule and commute today, but the injured in Gaza, Ukraine or war-torn South Sudan are still grateful to wake up another day!
So, how do we cope with all this negativity?
By taking care of ourselves.
By taking care of each other.
By advocating for the less privileged.
By speaking up against injustice.
By seeking out the good in others and in every situation.
By giving others the benefit of the doubt.
By following the Golden Rule: Treat others as you would like to be treated.
And by using humor and laughter to uplift ourselves and others.
Each day is an opportunity for renewal, and nothing is permanent. Resilience is our greatest strength.
About the Author
Dr. Rahmat Na’Allah is the Family Medicine Obstetrics Fellowship Program Director and a Professor of Clinical Family Medicine.