If You Discover a Child Has Been Sexually Abused …
First and foremost, DO NOT DENY the problem. Believe what the child tells you.
Control your emotions. Fear and anger on your part are natural reactions, but may be frightening to the child. Let the child know that your feelings are not directed at him/her.
NEVER blame, punish or embarrass the child.
Reassure the child that he/she is safe, and that it was right to tell you. Let the child ask questions, and then provide answers that can be understood.
Find out as much as possible about the events leading up to, during and after the incident. But do so delicately. If the molester was a stranger, get a description of the face, clothes, location, car, etc.
Immediately contact DCFS at 1-800-252-2873 and phone the police to report the abuse. Provide them with as much information as possible to better ensure their appropriate intervention.
Consider the need for a medical examination for your child. If necessary, contact the Pediatric Resource Center at 309-624-9595 or toll-free 877-262-6122 (M-F; 8:30 to 5:00). If the medical needs of your child constitute an emergency, take your child immediately to a hospital Emergency Department.
Seek counseling for both the child and yourself as soon as possible. Immediate intervention can help prevent long-term effects of the abuse.